Couples Therapy
to Rekindle, recreate, reimagine the love that brought you together in the first place
Is your Relationship on the back-burner?
It’s time to get you, and your partner back on the same page, so you can both feel heard. and held.
You’ve likely found me because you’re in need of some relationship help.
having an intimate partner in your life can sometimes mean that you notice yourself being triggered, or operating in a way that doesn’t feel good.
Maybe it’s a pattern when you get into a disagreement, maybe it’s a surprise to suddenly be feeling rejected and alone, either way….
when it comes to your relationship, it can be really hard to have space, and time to address the triggers when they surface.
especially when you don’t feel equipped with how to address or change those painful, or defensive moments.
it can be so easy to feel the days slip by, and then suddenly you realize you’re stuck in a pattern of feeling triggered, and triggering your partner’s triggers.
Hello vicious cycle.
Deep breath. I can help.
First off, applause for fitting in the time to search for a relationship therapist among that lengthy list of to-dos.
the exciting thing - having an objective perspective, and emotional mediator can help shift things quite a bit quicker, than if you were to try and go at it ‘alone.’
i’m here to support you, your partner, and your relationship, and to help you work through the stuckness that you’re currently experiencing.
life is lived in seasons, and right now, perhaps it’s your season to call in extra support.
I can help you to see the patterns, and cycles for what they are (and get out of them).
And then I get to help you with the best part of all- creating new and more awesome patterns instead.
The therapeutic work that you do, impacts and helps those around you.
remember that The ripple effect is real.
And that’s why I love what I do. I truly believe that healthy relationships will help to heal the world.
the steps + stages in couples therapy
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Stage one
Some might call this: de-escalation and stabilization stage. That’s a fancy way of saying we’re going to identify the negative pattern and cycle that’s keeping you stuck. And get everyone on the same page.
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Stage two
This stage is all about deepening into connection by strengthening or restructuring your relationship bond. We do this through communication, guided reflection of triggers, and softening the scary stuff.
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Stage three
This is where we continue to practice, and iron out the wrinkles of our emotional experiences. in a space where it’s safe to be vulnerable, this is all about implementing new and healthier patterns. This stage is the goal post, where practice makes the good stuff strong enough to outweigh, and replace the old and unhealthy cycles.
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Stage four (Post-therapy)
Every one needs reminders, and re-visits when changing big patterns, and cycles. It’s anything but a failure. These appointments are here for you to check in, as and when needed.. This is the tune-up time to hone in your new-cycle-skills.
“Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.”
-Irvin d. Yalom
Hi, I’m Jessica Rita
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Hi, I’m Jessica Rita 〰️
Some things about me + my practice:
I am a licensed/registered Canadian clinical counsellor with the Canadian counselling and psychotherapy association (ccpa).
Some of my favourite things are: donuts, ramen, the smell of a horses’ neck, dry pine needles on the forest floor, improving my skiing, being in the alpine, and the magic of witnessing the moon in broad daylight.
I’m mom to a very busy almost 3-year old, and i totally get the impacts and changes that parenthood brings to a relationship. Shout out to ms. Rachel + songs for littles for helping us through some of the harder days (If you know, you know).
I believe that healthy relationships will help heal the world.
And, I believe that every human who wants to grow, has the capacity to evolve, and improve their partnerships.
Want to work with me?